A private investigator has revealed the 12 warning signs to watch out for if you believe your partner is cheating.
The private detective, who offered his advice on condition of anonymity, released the guide to help women gather the evidence they need to put their mind at ease – or to confront their partner over their infidelity.
From the slightest change in the position of the car’s passenger seat, to an interest in a new hobby, the signs can often be far subtler than lipstick on a shirt collar.
The online guide, released today, was created in collaboration with business listings site Bark.com after it saw a 39 per cent increase in demand for private investigators.
For those who need the final piece of evidence to confirm their suspicions, the private investigator has provided five ‘tests’ that can be carried out to reveal a partner’s true feelings. He also shared a five-step plan to confronting a suspected cheater.
The 12 warning signs of infidelity
1. They are playing new music
If your partner is spending time with a new person, it makes sense that they would pick up on some of their interests.
A sudden interest in a genre or artist who previously didn’t get played might just be a sign that he’s mirroring someone else’s taste in music
2. The passenger seat has been adjusted
If the car’s passenger seat has been moved, it shows that someone else has been riding shotgun with your partner.
Moving the seat back is likely to be something that he would forget to do if he was covering his tracks.
3. More mileage on the car than there should be
Where has your partner been going that requires extra mileage? Everyone has a standard mileage they do each year, travelling to and from work, going on trips etc but if you don’t know where your spouse has been going, it’s a big warning sign.
4. Being protective of phone, social media or email
This highlights that there’s something to hide on these devices. They may also take their phone to the bathroom, keep it on silent or always keep it face down. Any calls are taken in a different room.
5. Dramatic change in sex drive
This could mean that there’s more or less sex in the relationship. The partner could feel guilty for cheating, so wants to cover it up by initiating or avoiding sex because they’re getting it elsewhere.
6. Decline in communication
This could be little things, such as what happened in their day that they used to share and no longer do, or big things like refusing to discuss the future.
7. New clothes and underwear
If new clothes and/or underwear have been purchased, which is unusual in the relationship, it may be that they are wearing it for someone else and making more of an effort.
8. Change in personality
A change in personality is a big sign of infidelity, it could be that they’re being more secretive, more argumentative and less affectionate. Sometimes it’s as a result of guilt, but it could also be the influence of the person they’re cheating with rubbing off on them.
9. They want to do their own laundry
They want to do their own laundry – they don’t want you looking through their pockets, seeing any potential lipstick marks or smelling any different scents, such as perfume or aftershave that is not yours.
10. They start using new phrases
This indicates that they’ve been around someone a lot, who has influenced them. Your partner then begins to pick up their habits and phrases.
11. They’re spending more money
They’re spending more money – they could be spending money on clothes, hotels, gifts for the person they’re cheating on you with, if it’s unusual behaviour, you should find out where this money is going.
12. You catch them not wearing their wedding ring
You catch them not wearing their wedding ring – this shows that they don’t want to appear to be in a committed relationship and are hiding your marriage from others.